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It is after 10:00PM and still 93 degrees inside the house. Somewhat cooler outside on the porch, where Beeb and I are, but not a ton.

At least the teething seems to be over for now, and Beeb is back to being a good sleeper.

I went to my first birth since Beeb's today. It ended in a c-section - the first one where I've been there at the time the c-section was decided. I'm having a hard time figuring out where to start writing about it.

When I left, the baby had been out for a while but they were still operating on the mom, and talking blood transfusions. It felt wrong leaving them (her mother and husband) standing there alone in the l/d/r room holding the baby, but I didn't know what else I could do beyond make them eat more hospital food.
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Dear body,

I am well aware it has been one week since I went into labor. You really do not need to commemorate the occasion with half hour long freaking painful afterbirth contractions.


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This post brought to you courtesy of Miss Nurse-A-Lot. If she keeps this up, I'm gonna have to improve my sleep nursing skills.

This is the briefish version (haha, I wish. It's long and probably boring. I'll make a link straight to the toilet part, since that's the only really dramatic bit.), while it is fresh in my head. I'll do the official story with pictures and all later.
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The interesting part )
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Astrid Thora was born at 9:10 PM. She almost ended up in the toilet, but we caught her in time :)

She's pretty tiny, but has been nursing since she was born so they haven't weighed her yet. I'll update more when we get around to it.
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Weird weird science fictiony dream.
Cut because I'm probably the only one interested )
I can see where a lot of this stems from. Anything related to the hospital and paperwork, including the first phone call, is related to something from Leif's birth that has been on my mind which I'll discuss if it turns out I'm not being paranoid. Part probably stemmed from [livejournal.com profile] yndy's rabbit hole day post. The alliance is totally Firefly. Burning me with his eyes is Phantom Of The Opera.

It's one of those ones where I wish I could continue the dream so I can figure out what's going on!
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I attended my first birth yesterday afternoon. The family spoke only Spanish. This was a bit odd, as my Spanish is pretty bad, though it was coming back fairly well by the time I left. It was good in a way, though - most of what I need to do is nonverbal anyways, and I wasn't tempted to babble excessively and didn't feel any pressure to make small talk.

I was pretty surprised to be called in at all. The volunteer coordinator gave the impression they weren't really using the volunteer doulas much these days, but it turned out that she was one of the nurses on duty, so that probably explains it.

The birth went well overall, but I do have somewhat mixed feelings about the way the mom was treated and how things were run in general. I'm looking forward to seeing more births to see if things are different. It's possible that the language barrier or other aspects that I wasn't aware of impacted how it was handled, but if all of them are similar, I'll probably end up looking at homebirth next time around.
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I occasionally wonder if Leif isn't what "they" refer to as a "spirited child".

He's really a pretty "well behaved" child. He shares better than most toddlers. He's gentle with other kids. He doesn't really throw tantrums. He helps clean up, and is cooperative about going to bed and most other things.

He's just active. At restaurants, he's the only kid who won't just sit quietly in his high chair. At library story time, he's the one who won't sit still.

I don't know if he's more active than normal, or if we're just less restrictive than most parents, or if parents of more active kids simply aren't crazy enough to try to take their child to story time and other public places.

(And yes, it is the story time intended for children his age. When I mention that he doesn't do well in story time, the first comment is usually "Isn't he a little young for that?" Actually, he's generally smack dab in the middle of the age range.)

I'm afraid I just started a flame war on a mailing list. Someone is planning to have a natural birth, and another posted (paraphrased), "Good for you, but don't get upset if things don't go as planned, and just go with the flow." I'm afraid I went off a little extremely, but it hit on a number of sore points for me. 1. I realize they're probably trying to be supportive without pressure, but saying "Don't be upset if you fail" is undermining confidence, not supporting. 2. Moms should not feel that they are doing something wrong if they are upset about things that didn't go as planned during birth. It's perfectly legitimate to be upset. 3. Going with the flow is a good way to end up with things not going the way you want them to if your health care provider does not happen to share your views on birth.

But this is a list which is suffering from a severe case of close-knittedness (most of us have been members for at least 5 years, and it's been...oh... probably two years since a new member has joined), and for the past year or so dissenting opinions have been actively avoided. So I feel like I'm stirring a hornets' nest by daring to say that I don't like what someone is saying.

For those of you from Coronado - Village Donuts closed. They're apparently going to put in a Henry's Marketplace (natural/organic grocery store, apparently now owned by Wild Oats), which is very cool, but couldn't they have replaced Von's or Albertson's instead of Village Donuts? Where are we supposed to go for coffee at 3AM now?

Not that I'm drinking much 3AM coffee these days...


Oct. 16th, 2003 07:39 am
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Original: http://www.kuro5hin.org/story/2003/10/16/93922/348

I realized I never updated after my last entry...
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Leif update here.

Leif's birth story here. Don't read it if such things bother you (obviously).
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I haven't written anything yet, partly because I haven't had any time, and partly because I could go on all day about how wonderful Leif is and still not be finished.

For those who don't read [livejournal.com profile] lemurbaby, my water broke at 6:10AM Sunday morning, and Leif Thorsteinn Harper was born at 6:43PM. He was 6 lb 11 oz, 18.5", and has a full head of reddish-brownish-blonde hair. He's the most adorable baby ever. Really. I'm not biased.

My plan for this evening is to get the pictures resized and sorted so that you all can see for yourself. We'll see if it actually happens.

Right now he's curled up asleep in his sling. He's so cute.

The only way I can describe the time since Sunday morning is the most wonderful nightmare I've ever experienced. Leif is so much more wonderful than I ever imagined he'd be. He's a really calm, quiet, sleepy baby, which is great, except when we try to feed him. Then he throws a fit. In the beginning, I'd spend an hour and a half trying to wake him up for a half hour nurse. We seem to be getting better at it, though.

Physically, I'm feeling pretty much ok. In many ways, better than I have in months. My stitches are hurting, which pisses me off since I'm convinced that an epesiotomy wouldn't have been necessary had I been allowed to move as I wanted. He's a pretty small baby, after all.

People have asked me how the birth was. How do you answer that? It was as good as it could be, considering the general nature of childbirth and the lack of progressiveness of Virginia hospitals. I was the only person during my entire stay (20+ deliveries) to give birth without an epidural or other pain relief. This is a bit of an undeserved ego trip for me.

I'm hopelessly behind on LJ and email, and probably will be for the next 18 years or so. Oh well. [livejournal.com profile] koyote is too. He says he'll post again someday.

Apologies to anyone who didn't get on the mailing list. He came a little quicker than I really expected :) You didn't miss much - the mailing about the birth didn't go through, leaving everyone hanging in suspense for several days.
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I'm putting together a mailing list for baby announcements. If you'd like to be on it, please leave a comment here.
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I'm feeling PMSy (physically, not emotionally, though I'm sure [livejournal.com profile] koyote could argue with that). Maybe this means baby will be coming soon. Or maybe not.

I wish she would. I read too much. I've read all the preeclampsia horror stories, and now I just want her out before anything bad happens.

Of course, most of these horror stories share two common themes which don't apply to me. 1 - the people have symptoms a lot more serious than mine, generally earlier in pregnancy. 2 - they get blown off by doctors until it's too late, which I haven't been.

Still, I get nervous every time baby doesn't move for a few minutes, which is irrational, since s/he's never moved every few minutes, but in spurts every few hours.

If it weren't for that, I'd rather have another few weeks. Sure, I'm uncomfortable, but if we had another few weeks, everything could be unpacked and organized. [livejournal.com profile] koyote has managed to get through about half of what is left (There is now room to walk around the bed in the bedroom! Yay!) this morning. Much of what is left after that involves sticking books on bookshelves, which involves getting more bookshelves, which we can do after we get paid. And that's even something nice and easy that I can do on my own, as long as the boxes are stacked low enough for me to get into them.

Also, we have someone staying with us this week, and it would be nice to not be in a state of labor/delivery/recovery/dealing with newborn during that time.

Of course, if I keep talking like baby is going to show up any day, she won't show up till August. Except that I doubt the doctor will let it go that long.
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Nesting is so much fun.

I decided this evening that I NEEDED a basket to put the bath stuff in. So we went out and looked for a basket, but it was already pretty late, so we didn't get one. This upset me terribly. Luckily, we had a basket lying around. It now has baby bath stuff in it.

Isn't that the stupidest thing you've ever heard? :)

Now I NEED all these boxes out of the bedroom, and to find the box(es) that has all my photos in it so that I can stick them in the photo box I got the other day. I've seen this box, I just don't know where it is.

I also need the laundry to finish drying so that I can go to sleep.

I washed all the 0-6 month clothing today (not that we have all that much of it, though we now have something to bring baby home from the hospital in besides onesies. Yay!), as well as all the bath stuff (to go in the basket), and a good portion of the receiving blankets. We got 90 million of them this weekend, as Ikea had them on sale for $0.95 for 2.

Now I just need a dresser to put them in. I may just end up using my dresser, which doesn't currently have anything in it, as everything except maternity clothing is still packed, but we want to get a somewhat lower dresser that will serve as a changing table, as well.

I had strange baby dreams last night. The skin of my abdomen was stretched so thin that I could clearly see baby's face through it, and when she kicked/punched, her arms and legs would extend way out. It was quite strange. I've had similar dreams before. Too much X-Files/Alien influence.

Baby shower pictures are posted at http://tasty.ucdavis.edu/~leng/gallery/lemurbaby. If you've never met us, it should be reasonably obvious which ones we are from context. I'm the one in the light pink shirt. Christof is wearing a greyish shirt. We're both blonde. Most of the pictures of us seem to be from pages 5-7, when we're opening presents.
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I had another doctor's appointment today. The baby could come at any time now. In medical terms, I'm 50% effaced, 1 cm dilated, and the baby is at the -2 station. What this means - nothing really. I could go tomorrow, or it could be another month, but likely sooner rather than later. As [livejournal.com profile] koyote has been saying, in gun terms, the gun is loaded and the safety is off. We're just waiting for them to pull the trigger.

I've also got possible symptoms of pre-eclampsia, which is a little worrisome, since it's potentially life threatening for both of us. She doesn't seem overly concerned about it, though.

My dad leaves for Europe tomorrow, and my mom for Hawaii on Wednesday.

I'm having a little bit of difficulty with this. Both these trips have been scheduled since before I got pregnant, and will be over before my official due date. And I know that my mom, at least, would skip it and show up here if I asked her to. And really, I'm glad I don't have to deal with the both of them out here at once.

But I still can't help feeling a little hurt. It's their first grandkid, after all. I kind of feel like we don't really matter.

Ok, I'll soon begin to rival Harry Potter in terms of angsty moodiness, so I'm going to sleep. Hopefully the lawnmowers will not wake me up at 8:00AM.


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