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ocelot(Disclaimer: This scenario is in no way related to my own life. I'm just curious, because I've seen this issue pop up in multiple locations now, so it seems to be a fairly common way of thinking.)
Partner A and B are an opposite-sex couple in a committed, up-to-this-point-monogamous relationship. For the sake of simplicity of explaining (and because this is how it has been in the situations I've seen so far), A is female and B is male. Partner A is bisexual, and partner B is heterosexual.
Partner A decides that she would like to explore her bisexual side and have an encounter/relationship/whatever with another female. Partner B says "Sure, if I can do the same with a female."
Partner A logs onto the internet, explains the situation, and says that this is unfair. She would happily let Partner B have a relationship with another male, though. Multiple people agree that it is unfair, and allowing him to also have a homosexual side-relationship is an adequate solution.
Disregarding any issues of the morality or practicality of an open and/or same-sex relationship... What's your opinion of the situation? Is it fair for Partner B to request the same freedom with a member of the opposite sex? Is Partner A's solution of giving the freedom to explore with a member of the same sex fair, considering that Partner A does not actually have interest in exploring with a member of the same sex?
(If you can't disregard the morality/practicality, don't feel you have to answer. Or answer if you want, anyways. I'm just procrastinating. I'm tempted to post to Booju, too.)
Partner A and B are an opposite-sex couple in a committed, up-to-this-point-monogamous relationship. For the sake of simplicity of explaining (and because this is how it has been in the situations I've seen so far), A is female and B is male. Partner A is bisexual, and partner B is heterosexual.
Partner A decides that she would like to explore her bisexual side and have an encounter/relationship/whatever with another female. Partner B says "Sure, if I can do the same with a female."
Partner A logs onto the internet, explains the situation, and says that this is unfair. She would happily let Partner B have a relationship with another male, though. Multiple people agree that it is unfair, and allowing him to also have a homosexual side-relationship is an adequate solution.
Disregarding any issues of the morality or practicality of an open and/or same-sex relationship... What's your opinion of the situation? Is it fair for Partner B to request the same freedom with a member of the opposite sex? Is Partner A's solution of giving the freedom to explore with a member of the same sex fair, considering that Partner A does not actually have interest in exploring with a member of the same sex?
(If you can't disregard the morality/practicality, don't feel you have to answer. Or answer if you want, anyways. I'm just procrastinating. I'm tempted to post to Booju, too.)
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Date: 2009-08-19 03:43 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-08-19 04:27 am (UTC)Non-monogamy is non-monogamy, whichever sex you're doing it with. If you're all cool with that, no problems. Otherwise, not so much.