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[ocelot]

koyote got hired by The Borg (aka. AOL). This means we'll be moving to Virginia within about the next month (early June is our deadline, due to restrictions on flying cross-country during late pregnancy). This is somewhat overwhelming, but exciting.

Now we just have to get everything packed. And I have to figure out how to tell work that I'm not actually going to be there till July as planned, and deal with everyone freaking out. This really shouldn't be as much of a shock for them as it is going to be - they've been aware this whole time that there's the possibility I could get stuck on bed rest or something at any moment.

I also need to see whether it is possible for me to go on disability now, or cut back to half time and telecommute, or if I just have to go ahead and quit. One of the first two options would be preferable, since it would mean an extra few months of at least partial pay. It would probably be preferable for them, also. If I have to just quit, I'm not going to spend large portions of my day answering questions or working on unfinished projects.

I'll also have to find somewhere to have the baby. This is one of the things I regret most about moving - the birthing center here in Davis is one of the best in the country, and I don't want to leave it. It doesn't look like any of the centers out there allow waterbirths, though I'll have to look into it more.

I also regret that our friends here won't get to see the baby. I'm not that upset about leaving - I'm not really all that close to anyone here.

Oh well. They can see pictures, and it's quite likely we'll make it back here for a visit within the first year.

Moving away from family will be a bit difficult, too. Though honestly, after our last visit with my mom and stepdad, I kind of feel that it may be good to have some space. I don't know how well I'd be able to stand up for our parenting choices if they lived close by.

I just fear one of my grandparents is going to go and die before getting a chance to see the baby. I'm also a little upset that I probably won't get to see my brother until Thanksgiving (both my parents have said they'll probably fly out sometime after the baby is born, but I don't know if that would be an option for my brother).

We need to find somewhere to live, though we have some time to do that after we get out there. Probably a condo, since payments on that would be less than paying rent on an apartment of about the same size.

It's a lot to think about, on top of everything else we have to think about before the baby arrives. But at least now we know where we're going and how we're going to survive. This is something that has been up in the air, and changing at least every few months, since last August.

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[femakita.livejournal.com]

Congratulations! It seems like all sorts of cool people are joining AOL and moving east. Maybe one of y'all can get me a job. ;)

Hopefully gdmusumeci and aiglet can help you get settled a bit. I'd talk to a doula or midwife about finding someone that knows the good hospitals out there.

[therealocelot.livejournal.com]

I have a few recommendations for midwives, so hopefully something will work itself out :)

[oatmeal.livejournal.com]

Change after change.

life is so lifelike... congratulations on getting mode of survival out of the way. Virginia... Moira's out on that side of the world somewhere, yes?

Are your grandparents in ill health? No one tells me these things. Hell.

I'm really happy that your life seems to be working. Yes. One more reason to visit the east coast at some point.

Be well. please.

[therealocelot.livejournal.com]

Moira is in one of the Carolinas. I can never remember which is which. I really must respond to her email that she sent months ago.

I don't know of any immediate threats to my grandparents' health, but they're old, you know? I also don't know what, if anything, you've heard from the Vandenberg side of the family, but Grandma V. had a TIA (mild stroke-like thingy, I'm sure Aunt Marianne can explain it better) a few weeks ago. Not that this puts her in any immediate danger of dying, but it's still worrisome.

So far, I am well, with no sign that I will be otherwise :)

[figgy-newton.livejournal.com]

Can I bounce now? I mean, seriously? Bouncing is permitted, right? Because I. Am. So. Excited. If the Nevada thing doesn't work out, I will be in Charlottesville, which means I'll pretty much be two hours from everything in VA. (where will you guys be again?) And you have to meet my brother and sister-in-law. I just know you guys would love them. And their friends. *bounces off in happiness* Let me know where you guys will be and I will help out in any way I can. :)

[therealocelot.livejournal.com]

We'll be in Northern Virginia, in the DC area (Yes, I know it's the yuckiest part of the state, but we don't exactly have a choice :). Not sure of the exact town yet. I'll be sure to let you know more details when we have them.

[rosefox]

I'm happy for you and bummed for all of us. *wry grin* And I hope your move is as pain-free and easy as mine has been so far!

[therealocelot.livejournal.com]

I hope so, too! I'm sorry we couldn't make it to help with that, though it sounds like you had just the right number of people so we probably would have just been in the way.

[rosefox]

Yes, we did end up almost at capacity. Let me know when your moving day is, and if it doesn't overlap with ours I'll try to make it up to help you out.

[therealocelot.livejournal.com]

Has koyote talked to you about Whole Earth Festival yet? It's May 9-11, and you all are welcome to come up for the festival/bbq/pool, spa, and sauna use/etc. If we need any help with boxing things up, that would be the best time to do it, since the majority of stuff is probably leaving later that week.

From what koyote has said, it should be a pretty simple move - the movers will just take care of everything, even most of the boxing up. I find this a little hard to comprehend.