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koyote got hired by The Borg (aka. AOL). This means we'll be moving to Virginia within about the next month (early June is our deadline, due to restrictions on flying cross-country during late pregnancy). This is somewhat overwhelming, but exciting.

Now we just have to get everything packed. And I have to figure out how to tell work that I'm not actually going to be there till July as planned, and deal with everyone freaking out. This really shouldn't be as much of a shock for them as it is going to be - they've been aware this whole time that there's the possibility I could get stuck on bed rest or something at any moment.

I also need to see whether it is possible for me to go on disability now, or cut back to half time and telecommute, or if I just have to go ahead and quit. One of the first two options would be preferable, since it would mean an extra few months of at least partial pay. It would probably be preferable for them, also. If I have to just quit, I'm not going to spend large portions of my day answering questions or working on unfinished projects.

I'll also have to find somewhere to have the baby. This is one of the things I regret most about moving - the birthing center here in Davis is one of the best in the country, and I don't want to leave it. It doesn't look like any of the centers out there allow waterbirths, though I'll have to look into it more.

I also regret that our friends here won't get to see the baby. I'm not that upset about leaving - I'm not really all that close to anyone here.

Oh well. They can see pictures, and it's quite likely we'll make it back here for a visit within the first year.

Moving away from family will be a bit difficult, too. Though honestly, after our last visit with my mom and stepdad, I kind of feel that it may be good to have some space. I don't know how well I'd be able to stand up for our parenting choices if they lived close by.

I just fear one of my grandparents is going to go and die before getting a chance to see the baby. I'm also a little upset that I probably won't get to see my brother until Thanksgiving (both my parents have said they'll probably fly out sometime after the baby is born, but I don't know if that would be an option for my brother).

We need to find somewhere to live, though we have some time to do that after we get out there. Probably a condo, since payments on that would be less than paying rent on an apartment of about the same size.

It's a lot to think about, on top of everything else we have to think about before the baby arrives. But at least now we know where we're going and how we're going to survive. This is something that has been up in the air, and changing at least every few months, since last August.